photo above © Veronica Hansen
My name is Toby Harper and I have been working as a humanist minister/actor on weddings for many years. I am based about an hour away from Barcelona in Spain though I have married people symbolically all over Catalunya, up to France and throughout Spain. I have carried out ceremonies in English, Spanish, Catalan, German, Italian and French, though I feel most confortable in the first three rather than the last three. In fact over recent years I have included words in Russian and Serbian as well as everything else. In the end, many of the ceremonies have been in a mixture of languages and nationalities as part of our ever decreasing world where couples come together regardless. This page is constantly being updated with the latest news from weddings just carried out, a few photos, some videos and any readings I come across that I think might be of interest to other couples. Please feel free to contact me for pricing and any help or hints if you are planning a wedding in Barcelona or would like me to travel to you. Over the years I have come into contact with wedding planners and photographers and would be happy to pass on any info that might be helpful.
If you would like a quote for the ceremony please get in touch by clicking the link just below. If prices suit I will send you a blue print of the ceremony and start the wheels in motion. Having had a look at my ideas we would then organise either a meet or a skype/facetime chat and take a look at details ... after that comes the time for input from you! You will see that I ask for as much detail as you are prepared to give to try and craft a personal and very individual ceremony. Please feel free to get in touch at
+34 652453508 or send a mail to firstname.lastname@example.org
Their mail, I told them that no more feedback was needed, that this said it all ...
The ceremony was amazing. Everyone keeps telling us how it was the most personal and enjoyable ceremony there have been too and that you were amazing, which you most definitely were! :-)We can't thank you enough!
All our guests were gushing about how wonderful the ceremony was, and the 'best ever'......which obviously I agreed with!!
I hope you recovered from your vodka fig.....
Rinki: I would just like to say how thankful we are that you could do our ceremony, everyone loved it and most of all us. We couldn't have asked for anything better or for ANYONE better for that matter, it was beautiful and is something we will cherish for the rest of our lives
Michael: I'm sold! 😃
Thank you again for everything. The day wouldn't have been the same without you, you made it very special for us.
Dear TobyWords aren't enough to describe what we felt during our amazing ceremony. You were simply SUPERB! Everybody was extremely impressed and were singing your praises for the rest of the day. Many of our guests said it was by far the best and most personal they had ever been to. Diana & I thought it was absolutely perfect, surpassing our highest expectations, you were terrific and really made our day what it was.
We wanted to send you a huge thank you after you created the most funny, warm, caring, memorable and lovely wedding ceremony. It was truly the most magical setting with Villa Catalina as the backdrop for our fairy-tale wedding. The day was just magical aided by all the team at the villa to include Servais and Helena, Pip, Jo and Mingo the band guy!But our thank you goes to you for making the ceremony so personal and joyous and for including our two boys so beautifully into the ceremony. You made it so magical, humerous yet romantic.... just perfect for us as a modern family. Our family and friends felt so honoured to be part of the intimate setting and they loved the idea of the signing of the nuptuals.
I just read through your service again and it brought a little tear to my eye. What an incredible day.
I saw that you'd put something up for your website which looks perfect! As for the blog, we cannot possibly express how happy we were with the ceremony. It was one of the things all our guests commented on and we were so touched by how personal it was to us. I think it was the best ceremony any of us had ever been to. Bravo!
All our love,
Hannah and Ben
"On behalf of Becky and I, we'd like to thank you so much for being our officiant. You did an absolutely magnificent job making all the guests (and us) feel extremely relaxed.
So many guests came up to us to compliment on the ceremony and in particular the job you did. It was relaxing, fun, funny and very us so thank you again for contributing to our perfect day."
"Toby was brilliant. Warm, friendly and funny, Toby helped set everyone at ease during the ceremony and helped settle a few pre-wedding nerves while waiting for the bride. The ceremony was perfect, Toby was funny and sincere and conducted matters brilliantly. We cannot recommend him highly enough, thanks Toby!"
Thank-you very much for making our day the happiest day in our lives...Your touch opened up the gates to dream land and your charisma, guided us through this uncharted territory. I wish life treats you well..
"... thank you once again for a fantastic ceremony that many people have said was perfect for the occasion. It was just what we wanted and fitted in perfect with the relaxed, intimate feel for the rest of the day."
"When we first met Toby to discuss being the celebrant for our wedding we felt very assured by his professionalism and approach that he would do a great job. On the day, our ceremony was amazing! Toby was faultless and impressed all of our guests. We did the wine box ceremony which so many people said was a lovely idea. As a celebrant, I sincerely doubt that you could find anyone better."
We wanted to thank you so much for being part of our day, your approach made it so unique, enjoyable and something we will never forget. We had so many comments about you afterwards-everyone was very impressed :)
"A friend who also had a humanistic wedding said he liked your wording very much, especially this part: "by the confidence vested in me by...."
It was perfect and without you the day would not have been possible!! You have a wonderful way of doing the ceremony, light and funny but still very meaningful and personal - the perfect balance!"
“We knew from the moment we met Toby that he was going to be fantastic, and he certainly didn’t disappoint. His warmth, humour, sincerity, and relaxed nature ensured our ceremony was everything we could hope for. Six months after the big day and our guests are still commenting on what a great job he did and how lovely he was; his words and manner were one of the highlights of the day. We couldn’t recommend him more highly.”
We both had a fantastic day and can't stop talking about it. I think you did a great job and am all happy! :)LoveHelena
Many of the guests said it was the best ceremony they've seen. We'll done!
I just wanted to drop you a note to thank you for such an incredible ceremony! It was just perfect. We both loved how personal and funny you made it whilst keeping it special and romantic. Everyone came up to us after and said it was the best ceremony they had ever been to and how fabulous you were. Should you ever need us to give you a testimonial we would be more than happy to do so!"
... I thought the mail said it all, and a bit more, so no need for a testimonial!
"I cannot Thank You enough for this evening. Is was quite emotional for us both.., you made it very special."
This was a renewal of vows 10 years on held with just the 3 of us.
"Ours was a simple affair, but of great significance nonetheless. We had always dreamed of a perfect and personal ceremony where we promised our love to each other forever, held in a magical location somewhere in Spain, a place we will always be in love with. Even though it was just the two of us, your attention to detail, gentle manner and good humour made us feel very special and we knew that we had chosen the right path. It was such a perfect day and you were the perfect celebrant.
Thank you Toby.
A+++ Would get married by you again :-)"
"The ceremony was fantastic. We loved your style and character which made it feel very special. Lots of friends and family remarked on how personable and charming you were.
Sara-jane and Peter"
The whole day was amazing, thank you for doing such a wonderful job, it truly was fantastic. Everyone commented on how great you were and you really put us both at ease. It was lovely to have the Spanish flavours in there too!!
We got married in Barcelona in June 2014. We initially had a different officiant, who informed us 2 days before that he couldn’t make it but already had contacted Toby to be his replacement. We believe sometimes things happen for a reason, as the ceremony couldn’t have been any better. Toby came to meet us in Barcelona prior to the wedding and wanted to know as much as possible, already making more effort than the previous officiant. The ceremony itself was just wonderful. Toby conducted it with so much passion that he was able to create an emotional yet happy atmosphere for our intimate ceremony. His ability to work different languages into the ceremony was greatly appreciated and even though he said German is not his main language to conduct ceremonies, we thought his German skills were excellent and greatly appreciated. If we had known Toby before we would have never looked elsewhere and can strongly recommend to use Toby for any type of ceremony.
I hope the remainder of your 2013 was sparkling. You really made our little party in October fantastic. It was a joy to have you celebrate—our guests were raving after you left.
Toby, we are without words to thank you for your care and concern for us on our wedding day
I still remember how our guests were so impressed by you ... Thanks to your sensibility, sympathy and "savour fair" everyone felt part of our ceremony and was deeply moved, making it something very personal throughout.
We could not have had anyone better to carry out our wedding, thank you so much for being a part of the best day of our lives.
Toby, no tenim paraules per agraïr-te tot el teu carinyo i el cuidado mostrat cap a nosaltres el dia del nostre casament.
Encara recordo com la gent deia lo molt impressionats que van quedar amb tu… Gràcies a la teva sensibilitat, simpatia i al teu saber fer vas aconseguir que tothom s’emocionés i es sentís involucrat, personalitzant en tot moment la ceremonia d’una manera PRECIOSA e INMILLORABLE.
No podríem haver tingut ningú millor que ens casés, moltíssimes gràcies per formar part del dia més maco de les nostres vides.
"The most special part of our wedding day remains our magical ceremony. Toby made sure our wedding was romantic, witty and meaningful. It was wonderful, all our guests have commented on what a beautiful ceremony it was. Behind the scenes and throughout the organisation before the big day Toby was really helpful and responsive. Thanks for a spectacular start to our married life Toby :)"
"You are so natural and just added so much humor and life to our wedding ! We are sure that every one of our guests will never forget our wedding with you as part of it."
"It was great to meet you finally. Thank you for a wonderful ceremony. Our family and friends, as did we, thought it was perfect and very emotional. Thank you again."
“Thank you again for this beautiful ceremony. You can plan as much as you want, but one never knows how it will turn out on the day itself. Well, it was beyond our expectations and we really loved every single minute of it. So did our guests. Some of them asked for your details, so they can get in touch with you for their own wedding! No better compliment than a satisfied audience! Whenever in Amsterdam, you are always welcome.”
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